Why Your Preschooler Can’t Sleep At Night

(Continued from Page 1)

On DEALING WITH YOUNGER KIDS.

MIA:
Do you know Berna always bumps me? But I don’t get mad coz she’s still young.
She doesn’t mean it. She doesn’t understand it hurts other people.
Do you know she also hit me and push me and I almost fell? But I just let her be.
I also got stuck on a chair that’s why my tummy hurts. Because she pushes me.

JING:
I hope Berna will be more careful next time. I don’t like you getting hurt.
But I think Berna likes you that’s why she always goes near you.
She just can’t say it because she can’t talk much yet.
Maybe she wants you to be her playmate.

MIA: Oh…

(Berna was 2 and Mia was 4 when this happened.)

On WAITING FOR THEIR TURN.

MIA:
But I never have a chance to get the necklace (beading toy).
There’s always someone who gets it first. I ran out of chances.

JING:
Maybe you should be fast in getting it.

MIA:
But it’s not good to run in the classroom. We should just walk. But my classmates, they always hurry.

JING:
Then tell teacher how you feel.

MIA:
But she always tells me to wait for my turn if somebody gets it first.

JING:
Yeah.. (that’s how it is)

On EATING TOGETHER.

MIA:
Do you know that I don’t like it when Fay and Peachy always holds hands and pulls my hands
so we can eat in the same table?

JING:
Why not? That sounds kind of sweet to me.

MIA:
Yeah. But sometimes, I want to eat in another table. I want to try a different table.

(She has a point.)

On FRIENDSHIP and EXCLUSIVITY.

MIA:
Do you know that I’m partners with Brent but I’m still friends with Fay?
Even if Brent is my partner, Fay is still my friend.
But Fay, she doesn’t like it. She says she’s not friends with me anymore.
But for me, she’s still my friend.
I’m a bit scared that she’ll say that again.
That I’m not her friend anymore. I’m a bit scared.

On MISCOMMUNICATION.

MIA:
Do you know I dont understand Mara? She doesn’t talk.

JING:
I hear her talk sometimes.

MIA:
I don’t understand what she says, Mom..

JING:
That’s okay anak. When you were a baby, I couldn’t understand you too.
You just say bubu and baba and coocoo.
So I just always guess what you were trying to ask from me.
We’ll just give Mara sometime to grow.
Maybe when she turns 4 or 5, you can already understand each other.

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These are the only ones I was able to take note of but I think they’re enough to show that what sounds like minor stuff for us, is a real concern for young children. They need a little assistance in navigating the social world.

So the next time your kid refuses to sleep and you’re sure it’s not the usual delaying bedtime tactics, it won’t hurt to try and ask what your kid is thinking about.

Here are some questions we often use to start the conversation.

Is there anything that made you smile in school today?

Is there anything that made you upset in class this morning?

Who did you sit with during snack time?

Did teacher get angry with any of your friends?

What funny thing happened at the playground?

Who’s your favorite classmate today?

Is there a classmate you didn’t like?

Is there a classmate who wasn’t so nice to you?

What was the teacher’s lesson about?

Did you see someone do good today?

How about someone do bad?

Did you do something good in school today?

How about something bad that you did?

What would you add? Don’t forget to SHARE the love.

 

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