Here are 3 note worthy things I’ve learned from the seminar.
1) We play a huge part in our children’s identity formation and self-concept.
I think this could translate to: They are who they are, but they also become who we make them, and at times, who we tell them.
Dra. Ho, who is a clinical psychologist, neurotherapist, and President of the Philippine Center for Gifted Education and Philippine Association for the Gifted, was discussing how the family plays a crucial role in the development of the “who I am” idea to kids. She said that oftentimes, kids push for what the family reinforces. Say, if a child grows up in a family of artists and has been exposed to creative activities in the majority of his childhood, he will most likely (though not at all times) develop the same interest too. If at an early age you kept on telling him that he is good in painting and that he’d make a great artist someday, that might be what he will pursue. It may not necessarily be because he loves it (good thing if he does though), but because this is what the family reinforced in his early years.
This applies to attitudes as well. If everyone in the child’s immediate environment kept saying that he/she is a menace, then there is a big chance that this how he would view himself too. Being a troublemaker and causing mischief will eventually be part of his self-concept.
As Erik Erikson puts it,
An individual judges himself in light of what he perceives to be the way others judge him, in comparison to himself, and to a topology significant to others.
I just hope this wouldn’t be taken advantage of. I mean that we will purposely dictate or manipulate what we want them to be, career wise. The examples are to show us why finding their gifts and nurturing it at a young age can help them get to know themselves better. The validation and confirmation that they indeed possess certain gifts should come from us. Otherwise, they’ll grow up without ever knowing it.